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It is easier to justify a decision based on a fixed view of an issue rather than grapple with the discomfort and uncertainty of exploring all sides of the matter before arriving at a decision. It helps to... Play Devil's Advocate Before Deciding. Practice arguing other sides of the issue.…

Giving feedback, whether in a formal employee review or during a family meeting, can be a challenge. Keep it simple, use neutral language and... give information in threes. Limit yourself to just a few items so that they are memorable and prioritized. According to Build.com, Cristobal Conde of FinTech Innovation…

Texting or talking while driving is dangerous and often illegal. But what if someone calls or texts you? Your smart phone has safety features that can automatically tell you're driving and will notify callers of that fact. To set it up... iPhone: Settings > Do Not Disturb > Do Not…

Peer pressure is a powerful force and it can keep us from speaking up and expressing seemingly unpopular views at work, in families, everywhere. How to break free? When one person shares a different view in a respectful way, especially in a way that conveys reticence or doubt, it gives…

It's impossible to effectively prioritize, plan, delegate and set expectations with others if you don't have clarity about your commitments. To get clear... review your commitments consistently. David Allen recommends that we conduct a weekly review of all unclosed loops. I've found that two weeks is enough for many. For everyone,…

Ever wonder the optimal number of hours a week our bodies like us to work? Researchers at the University of Texas Health Science Centers and University of St. Thomas in Houston did. Their findings… stay heart healthy by working 45 hours a week max. An analysis of health data from…

It is difficult to admit that a relationship is not fruitful, especially after the investment of hiring someone or being a friend. Yet the most common mistake I've seen leaders make is holding on, so... let go sooner rather than later. When someone is not a fit, it's not just…

Most people dislike conflict and fear that standing up for their needs could damage a relationship. But staying silent while simmering or hurting inside not only damages the relationship with the other person but with yourself. Instead... care enough to speak up. Confrontation comes from the Latin for "putting foreheads together."…

Research shows that being "on call" after work increases stress hormones and decreases sense of control. But how can you mentally turn off work? Explain to to your supervisor and direct reports that you will be available for emergencies (by phone call, not email or text) and define an emergency. Then…

Changing habits is difficult for anyone. It means making the unconscious very conscious and uncomfortable for a while. One strategy that helps is to build new habits by embracing weaknesses. People who think "I got this" are more prone to slip into old behaviors than those who have a fact-based…