Your thinking style (more than your intelligence, genetics or socialization) determines your ability to bounce back from adversity and thrive.
You can generate resilience by approaching problems and losses with neutrality, viewing them as neither horrible nor wonderful but instead as teachers that will help you grow in wisdom, compassion and perspective. The choice is yours. As Viktor Frankl wrote, “The last of human freedoms is to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”